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I have worn many labels (Not in any particular order): Catholic, Wife, Mom,Gramma, Doctor, Major, Soccer Mom, Military Wife, Professor, Fellow.

All of these filter my views of the world. I hope that like St. Monica, I can through prayer, words and example, lead my children and others to Faith.
"The important thing is that we do not let a single day go by in vain without putting it to good use for eternity"--Blessed Franz J├Ągerst├Ątter

Saturday, March 03, 2007

Trust and Faith

Oh, we are impatient people. We want to understand things and we want to understand them right now! Give me the staff summary sheet or white paper and let’s move on. This is fine for the CEO or government official, but it is not the way to approach our faith.

This weekend I will meet with a young man who has decided to enter the Church. He is entering the RCIA program a little late so I am going to do some one-on-one time with him to catch him up with the RCIA class. I’ve been mulling over what I really need to tell him. What is the essential nugget he needs to know? Do I start with the Eucharist? Do I start with God’s love and mercy? I’ve been developing the ideas of what does it mean to be Catholic and what does it mean to be in communion with the Church for over a year as I’ve posted on my blog. Stay with me here and let me see if I can take you down the short but very challenging road I think this young man needs to traverse to be ready to enter the Church. He has been baptized so he is preparing for confirmation. This is a sacrament of initiation not a graduate degree in theology.

First consider the Gospel of John 6: 51-66

I am the living bread which has come down from heaven. Anyone who eats this bread will live forever; and the bread that I shall give is my flesh, for the life of the world.

Then the Jews started arguing among themselves, ‘How can this man give us his flesh to eat?’ Jesus replied to them: In all truth I tell you, if you do not eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink his blood, you have no life in you. Anyone who does not eat my flesh and drink my blood has eternal life, and I shall raise that person up on the last day. For my flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood lives in me and I live in that person. As the living Father sent me and I draw life from the Father, so whoever eats me will also draw life from me. This is the read which has come down from heaven; it is not like the bread our ancestors ate: they are dead, but anyone who eats this bread will live forever.

This is what he taught at Capernaum in the synagogue. After hearing it, many of his followers said, ‘This is intolerable language. How could anyone accept it?’ Jesus was aware that his followers were complaining about it and said, ‘Does this disturb you? What if you should see the Son of man ascend to where he was before?

‘It is the spirit that gives life, the flesh has nothing to offer. The words I have spoken to you are spirit and they are life.

‘But there are some of you who do not believe.’ For Jesus knew from the outset who did not believe and who was to betray him. He went on, ‘This is why I told you that no one could come to me except by the gift of the Father.’ After this, many of his disciples went away and accompanied him no more.


I have always pointed to this Gospel as the justification for the Real Presence of the Eucharist. Today, however, I found another concept central to our faith nestled in these words. Many disciples left because they found the teaching too hard. But some disciples stayed. Why? They didn’t understand Jesus’ words any more than those who left? The idea of eating flesh was just as repulsive to them as it was to those who walked away. Why did they stay?

The disciples who stayed trusted Jesus. All through the Gospels are notations of how the Apostles or other disciples did not understand Jesus’ words. Yet even with their imperfect understanding they continued to follow Him. They believed in Him and trusted Jesus would not lead them astray.

Jesus established His Church to continue teaching His message from generation to generation. Just like His disciples, we sometimes do not fully grasp the lesson. Some will hear the Church’s teaching on sexuality, priestly celibacy, an all-male priesthood, divorce, abortion, contraception, or a whole host of other topics and say, “That is too hard”. They will leave. But we must be like the disciples who stayed. We must continue to listen to Jesus through the Church. When we don’t understand we do not discard the Church or the teaching but rather trust that with God’s grace the insight will eventually develop. To humbly obey the Church in light of our imperfect understanding is a great act of faith.

So before I delve into the Mass, the Sacraments, or the Precepts of the Church with this young man, I want him to know that finding a teaching hard is to be expected. If he wants to be Catholic he must be willing to stick with it even when his understanding is incomplete. He must humbly submit to the Church’s authority because like the faithful disciples, he trusts that Jesus through His Church will never lead him astray. With patience and with God’s grace, some understanding will come. However, our understanding is never complete. The process of growth and development in our faith never ends.

3 comments:

Jennifer F. said...

These are great points. I would also add that you have him read (or even read yourself) By What Authority? by Mark Shea. It was after reading that that I was completely sold on the Catholic Church, and it gave me a solid foundation for trusting even when I don't understand. I think it's so important that converts fully understand the concept of Sacred Tradition...it's something our own RCIA class hasn't really covered, and I know a lot of people are still wondering, "Where on earth does the Church get this idea that they're always right on doctrine?"

Anyway, can't recommend that book highly enough for converts and those who teach them.

phbrown said...

I think—this has likely already occurred to you, but since I know my own abilities in overlooking the obvious I'll say it anyway—you might want to find out where he's already solid, find out what's hard for him, and work from the first group towards the second. You have the luxury of a class of one, so you can tailor as closely as you want; you do not have the luxury of time to cover stuff he's already bought into.

Jennifer F.—and your own earlier posts—are certainly right that the issue of authority and Tradition is central. I'm in RCIA myself, hoping to be received at Easter, and I will certainly say that authority was the make-or-break issue for me. There's a huge difference, for me, between the essentially-individualistic outlook of my Protestant upbringing and the Catholic approach where our questionings and arguments and discernments take place within the context of—and ultimately in submission to—the authoritative community of the Church.

But not everybody treads exactly that road in exactly that direction. My wife, for example, is making this same journey very differently. For her, the tipping point seems to be the Eucharist, partly the Presence of Christ in the Eucharist and partly the Eucharistic unity the Catholic Church has (she's aware that those are two sides of the same coin). Authority, for her, comes after that and from that.

I couldn't really claim that my wife's approach is better or worse than mine. Both of us are building on solid spiritual ground and reaching the same conclusions; I think the differences are more about the differences in learning style and style of spiritual expression than they are about anything else. So I come back to, what is the guy you're working with building on? And what does he not have?

For what it's worth…

Peace,
--Peter

Sarah said...

Great points, and Peter also has some good reflection in his comment. I think authority is a tripping point for a lot of people coming in, but also for a lot of people who stay around. It's not just the converts who struggle with the "cafeteria" mindset; it's something that's been ingrained in all of us. I think you're going to be a great person to guide him as he makes this journey, Denise. :)