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I have worn many labels (Not in any particular order): Catholic, Wife, Mom,Gramma, Doctor, Major, Soccer Mom, Military Wife, Professor, Fellow.

All of these filter my views of the world. I hope that like St. Monica, I can through prayer, words and example, lead my children and others to Faith.
"The important thing is that we do not let a single day go by in vain without putting it to good use for eternity"--Blessed Franz J├Ągerst├Ątter

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Parents must teach virtue

From Lifesite News:

WASHINGTON, D.C., May 12, 2009 ( - In President Obama's Fiscal Year 2010 Proposed Budget, the president recommends that Congress eliminate funding for abstinence education and instead pour funds into condoms and contraceptive-based sex education.

The proposed budget calls for an additional $150 million for contraceptive-only education, which includes competitive grants, research, evaluation and authorization for $50 million in new mandatory condom grants to states, tribes and territories, according to an Abstinence Clearinghouse press release.

The budget eliminates the $133 million set aside for CBAE (Community Based Abstinence Education) and Title V Abstinence Education Program, the two main federal abstinence-education initiatives.

Pregnancy centers and other charitable organizations throughout the country would be among those affected by the elimination of CBAE funds.

Actually, I am not a fan of state intervention in sex education of any kind. Both the condom distribution and the abstinence education are band-aid solutions. If the state must be involved, I would prefer to have them telling young people not to have sex instead of telling them to go fornicate with abandon and here are condoms to decrease the odds of pregnancy and disease.

What our young people really need is an education in the virtue of chastity. Chastity is different from abstinence. Abstinence is a negative. It is a great big “DON’T”. Chastity is a host of positives: Respect your body; Respect the bodies of others; Respect the dignity of every human being; Reducing another to a sexual object demeans their dignity; Sexuality is a gift from God to be used for His purposes. Chastity is a road map to true sexual joy.

No school based program or community center program is going to teach chastity. This has to be taught at home. It is not one long talk about the birds and the bees. Instead, parents should be taking advantage of thousands of teachable moments throughout their children’s lives. I’ve heard many a “tsk, tsk” about the sexualization of little girls’ clothes. I agree that I’ve seen way too many pre-teens dressed like little they are little hookers. But these girls are not buying these clothes all by themselves. A parent is paying for the micro-shorts and midriff-baring tops. Rather than give in to the pleas to dress like a BRATZ doll, parents should be teaching why this is inappropriate. When my daughter and I travelled with school or sports groups there were occasions when a divorced mom would bring along her boyfriend and they would share a hotel room. I never called attention to the situation, but if my daughter noticed, I did not hesitate to let her know that the virtue of chastity does not only apply to teens. Even parents should be abiding by its principles. Parents are the primary educators of their children. The silence of parents about the virtue of chastity is taken as consent for the cultural message of lust.

You love your child. The state sees your child as a statistic to be managed. Who should give your child guidance through the hormonal milieu of adolescence? You as the parent can lead your child down the path of virtue. The state can only supply band-aids for the trip down the path of vice.

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