I think Monica missed the whole point of the article. As I explained in my response:
I stand by the facts presented in this article. Nowhere did I state that cohabitation is the only factor contributing to the increased divorce rate. And the point of this article is not that cohabitation contributes to divorce. Rather, the issue is what do Catholics believe about cohabitation and marriage and do Catholic weddings reflect this belief. Catholics who faithfully wait until after the wedding to live together should be supported and encouraged by celebrating their wedding with the full Nuptial Mass. It is an injustice to these Catholics to make no distinction between their faithful preparation and those who flagrantly flout Church teaching by cohabitating before marriage. It also sends a mixed message about Church teaching on marriage and undermines the dignity of marriage to equate cohabitating couples with those who wait until after the wedding to live as a married couple.Every time we "normalize" an aberrant practice we undermine the institution of marriage. Cohabitation is not in line with Catholic teaching. Divorce is not in line with Catholic teaching. Contraception is not in line with Catholic teaching. We are facing the threat of the redefinition of marriage to include same-sex couples precisely because we did not hold the line on these previous threats. It is time to get serious about defending marriage from all assaults, not just the latest.
What do you think about making a distinction between couples who wait to live together until after they are married and those who cohabitate before marriage?
UPDATE A new comment at the Truth & Charity forum bears repeating:
Augustine: Having been there done that in regards to cohabitation, I can honestly say that I would never advise a couple to go this route. It is truly a selfish existence shrouded in the appearance of being a couple. There is lack of genuine intimacy as no soulful commitment has been made. I commend your parish priest. May more priests man up and defend the sacrament. May more men man up and treat their future spouse and mother of their children with the dignity and respect they deserve. May more women grow a spine and tell men to take a hike when they try to pressure them into such relationships.